Our brains chase comfort and trick us into complacency whenever possible. While we may rationalize excuses for not seeking what we desire, ultimately our reality is incongruous with our desires. This dissonance builds up, inevitably manifesting through depression (i.e., dwelling on the past), anxiety (thinking about the future, and hopelessness. It's too easy to let your mind take you wander off down a deep hole of despair/hate/depression. It's hard to escape this hole. It seems like you'll only ever be happy if you have all the things you've ever wanted. The more hopeless you become, the further you feel you are from ever realistically reaching your goals. The way out of this is simple--grind. You have to climb out of the hole. Consistent progress is essential. The quickest way to suck the joy out of life is by convincing yourself that you will "finally be happy" when you achieve X". Accomplishments won't make you happy. After achieving them you'll only think about how they did not live up to your expectations. This mindset leads to chronic dissatisfaction and will lead to further hopelessness. Gratitude is key to enjoying life. Gratitude changes the game. Looking back, some of my happiest days were spent entirely in my own company, reading, writing, coding, running, eating, thinking, and doing whatever I please. Be grateful. Be grateful for the fact that you were born with a functioning brain and body; be grateful you've never been tortured; be grateful we won the lottery of life, living in the coolest time period so far (i.e., going from riding horses to riding rocket ships into space in < 100 years). Don't take life so seriously Exercise, meditate (start with gratitude), read, go for a walk, visit the zoo, pet a dog. In the long term, these are the things that make life worth living--not the attention of facebook/instagram followers. Chasing validation leads to hopelessness. “All you need are these: certainty of judgment in the present moment; action for the common good in the present moment; and an attitude of gratitude in the present moment for anything that comes your way”–Marcus Aurelius Meditations 9.6 So be gracious.